Love Marriage?… Or Arrange?

We’ve all heard about love at first sight. And lately, it has become a common phenomenon too. And why not? With everyone becoming more and more conscious about their physical appearances, almost every girl today looks prettier than the other one, and every boy handsome and more well-groomed than the other. And with everyone looking good, every first sight you see is a pleasant one, leaving the eyes of the beholder smitten with puppy love.
So does that mean love today has become shallow enough to just happen by looks. Does that mean love at first sight phenomenon is now completely dependent on how one looks on their first date, or randomly bumping into a complete stranger? Or maybe its the demands of the youth today that has changed. Today, rather than knowing a person inside out before falling in love, they prefer to go in for the prettiest in the lot, or the most handsome one perhaps!

But really, have the requirements changed so much? Do people today need just arm candies, and not life partners? Does the compatibility factor not fit in with this scenario? Or maybe that’s not needed anymore too. And what about those who have a set criteria about the girl or boy they wanna take home as a partner? Whom would they introduce to their parents? Mere arm candies wont work for them. So what would they do? Probably go one step ahead and try finding someone who matches their parent’s criterion of a perfect partner for their son or daughter, as well as act as an arm candy wherever need be. Probably for a dinner with friends, or to the boss’s party as well. Which means such a partner would have to not only look good to be fallen for in the first go, but would also have to match up to the set criteria of the people back home. Coz in India, they still have the final say. And in such a country, when young boys and girls fall in love, its much more than just love. It’s a tactful way out of an arranged marriage.

But what these young ones don’t realise is that, although they succeed in getting married to the ones they love, it’s still not a love marriage! It’s just another form of arranged marriage.
The difference is, that this is a marriage they’ve arranged for themselves. But well, that’s the best you can get in the name of a Love marriage in a country still clutching to some of the long-lost traditions.

Anyhow, I would like to put back the spotlight on those who finally got married, arranged or love, they don’t really care right now. They’re just happy to be together, finally, and forever! But what would happen to them here onwards? Why am I asking this? Because someone has to! They would get one another… true! But would it be easy for them to get love from every other relation in the family? Would the girl be welcomed? Would the boy, who has promised her the world, be accepted by his own family easily?
Someone once told me Marriage is like a minor earthquake. It shakes everyone’s world, but eventually people do tend to get settled afterwards. Do people actually get settled together so easily… or is it just easier said than done? Take a while and think about it!

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2 thoughts on “Love Marriage?… Or Arrange?

  1. true…i agree completely. a guy/girl first wants a partner who looks good… n then he or she wants that partner to meet the prerequisites set by their folks…

    love marriage? hmm u fallin in love with a person no matter what…u wantin to live with tat person no mater where…u wanting to do anything for tat person even if it means givin up on ur happiness…
    dude….. i know this might sound like a good ol eng movies… but tats where true love lives or even in books..

    reality says …we wall want a tailor-made person…with good looks, should be homely, may be rich and definitely who listens to every damn thing we want…!!

    arrange marriages are far much better…atleast two people try to know each other n do small things to understand n make space for each other in the whole new world of their life… sewn together by their parents, after being satisfied with the deal they got…!! humbug…!!

  2. True thought…..Love or arrange….there has been a great tussle between the two from time immemorial, at least in India. This is basically because the perspective partners look for much of material gains to make out of something which was supposed to be “Made in heaven”…..
    Pursuing above thought, I strongly believe ….that attire, material, money and looks fail to impress a person after some time. What stays is a question?
    Does that person care for you?.. Does that person understand you….Has that person the capability to share his/her mind and intellect freely with you
    Therefore well calculated and motive driven marriages have a hard time facing the storms of time.
    Love or arrange… To cherish this heavenly bond of marriage you have to see person’s heart and mind not the materialistic gains.
    For they say- “Anyone can catch your eye, but it takes someone special to catch your heart”

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